Conditions to practice BDSM

Contract

Another of the principles of BDSM is consent. On this Petra comments that obviously nothing is going to be forced, no relationship, nothing that is done, it becomes forced and Octavio adds.Being submissive, he agrees to be whipped on the back, whipped on the buttocks, slapped, or he tells me, I I do not accept and do not sign that contract. You cannot force her to be with you. This gives us to understand that this contract is a discussed and premeditated agreement, where previous experiences, specific tastes and limits of each person are put on the table. Even, according to some participants, it may be similar to the agreement that conventional couples make before having sexAn agreement, just like that, like when at some point you are with someone and you are going out and suddenly they decide one day to have relationships, well, it works as is, the difference is that the relationship is going to be with certain activities (Xavier) .

This agreement can be discussed before starting the practice as such, then before coming to a session one must talk a lot with, there must be a lot of conversation between both, to see what you like, what you don’t like, what I like, what I don’t like him (Pascal). For most practitioners and as reviewed in theory, the agreement should always be discussed, however; for two of the interviewees, there may not be prior agreements on the limits, Ida refers to there was never a proposal for… would you like to do this? Such a thing, but because she took control of everything, she did everything herself and Alejandro suggests that when they do not talk, they are feeling little by littleand well, that, when generally they do not have that mutual agreement, is like feeling the area. Suddenly … well, having sex you bite the person and see how he reacts … at least you see what things are liking or … not, and you just go to the point where … that person says’ No, already he’

Taking this into account, we consider the possibility that BDSM practitioners are more aware of what they are looking for and expect, in relation to non-practitioners, since they tend to establish greater communication in their relationships, since they must express their wishes in advance, fears and expectations, which could result in the development of a greater depth in the bond of these couples. This may be related to what Elisa expressed are more intense, you see a BDSM couple who have been there for 6 months and you see how they interact and you swear that they have been together for 5 years … I know couples who have a level of interaction and treatment that is, eh, of couples who are years old …

What is the BDSM and how do you use it?

As we’ve seen, it’s a collection of activities in which thrills are gained by dominance and control; disciplines that were once frowned upon are now regarded as pleasurable sexual games with a strong visual component. This is mostly attributable to two factors: the first is their disconnection from true bodily suffering, and the second is the present more open sex vision. For many, it’s an occasion to dress up as a dominant or submissive character in sultry leather and black vinyl. Wearing a plethora of accoutrements, including a corset, high-heeled boots, a mask, and metal-inlay necklaces, to name a few.

Scientific studies, on the other hand, have shown that these practises cause a high number of endorphins to be produced in our neurons during their growth, causing our brain to experience pleasurable sensations. As a result, it is now recognised that people like these practises and are no longer classified as having a mental illness. Endorphins are chemically related to morphine, and they are the reason that bdsm games can become so exciting.

What should we keep in mind before we begin? Prior to the game, it is critical that the couple develop a keyword. What exactly is a keyword? This term will serve as a password and a key between them, alerting the submissive that the punishment is exceeding the desired pain level and should be stopped. It’s possible that during the game of thrill and morbidity, some “stop,” “no,” or something similar escapes, signalling to the offender that he must stop. To avoid misunderstandings, it is best to place a randomly chosen term between the two members of the couple. The name of a city, a colour… Something that isn’t too far-fetched but doesn’t make a lot of sense to speak throughout the performance. This will be a simple approach to avoid either of the two members being wounded or injured during bdsm practises, by constantly playing without following the conditions that have been established.

In BDSM games, it’s crucial to know how to do things correctly.

The “after care” that occurs after bdsm practises is as significant as or more important than the sexual game itself. What kind of aftercare is provided? Aftercare might range from snuggling and cuddling to simply talking with the person with whom you’ve shared this experience for 5 or 10 minutes. If done correctly, step by step and with respect for the other person, it is a magnificent time full of pleasure, and if done in this manner, your brains will be brimming with endorphins, as we described previously. It is necessary to comment and relive the moment lived during those moments, so if the person with whom you are going to conduct this type of practise does not intend to spend those minutes with you, then this person is definitely not the best fit for this type of game. What else should you think about? Another aspect of bdsm sex that must be considered is establishing all of your personal boundaries that can make you feel uncomfortable or humiliated.

As you can see, these disciplines (bondage, dominance-submission, masochism, and sadism) are closely related, which is why they are sometimes lumped together in the same bdsm category, yet there are enough variances between them for us to regard them as fully separate practises. With such dissimilar characteristics and no shared origins, it is evident that individuals who practise them should avoid becoming confused, regardless of where they are performed.

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